Saturday, March 5, 2011

WHAT DO WANT IN YOUR LIFE? Check out the CLUES OF PURPOSE & PASSION that LEAD YOU to YOUR RIGHT DIRECTION!

This is a continuation of my previous post here.

I attended Merry Riana's 1-day 'I am Woman' workshop, so the previous post was more about women and for women.

But I feel that there are some very important and useful knowledge that I learnt and want to share with everyone!
Below are the knowledge that I learnt and want to share them with more people and help more people discover about themselves.

WHAT DO WANT IN YOUR LIFE? 
Is this what you are saying to yourself, "I don't know what I want in my life. Life is so meaningless."

These are the CLUES OF PURPOSE AND PASSION!
- Your Secret Fantasy of your Wish and Desires in your Life
- Jealous & Envy (it may not be a bad thing. Whatever that you may envy, it makes you feel that it is something that you want.)
- Bodily Symptoms (for example, when you which a cooking show, you just get so fired up and excited. Your body may unconsciously be telling you that it may be something that you want.)
- Crisis
- Recurring Dreams, Vision
- Talents & Strengths
- Play of a Child (What did you like to play or do when you were a child? Do you like to sing?)

There you have it, these are the CLUES that help you DISCOVER PURPOSE AND PASSION.

KNOWING YOUR PASSION & PURPOSE gives you the DIRECTION. Your Passion and Purpose tells you where your DESTINATION is, thus you know whether you are heading in the RIGHT DIRECTION.

Moving in the Right Direction, makes you feel that you are living in a Meaningful life, knowing that you are on your way to your Destination.

Merry Riana spoke of her 2 SECRET FORMULAS to SUCCESS:
#1 - Finding the RIGHT DIRECTION
#2 - Finding the RIGHT STRATEGIES

So what do you mean by RIGHT DIRECTION?
Merry Riana (MR): Why do go to work? Why do you want to look good? For what?
People always ask,"How can I be successful?"
But do you know what you want in the first place, what is your passion or purpose in life?

MR gave an analogy to represent Direction.
Imagine that you are in City Hall MRT, you ask the MRT staff,"which train should I take?" 
What do you think the staff will say?
"WHERE DO YOU WANT TO GO?"

Most people don't know their direction and don't know what they want. 
So what do most people do?
They tend to take the first train that arrives, that eventually leads them to nowhere! Because they don't even know where they want to go in the first place!

Merry Riana shared about her 1 Big Secret to her Success:
"Because I Dare to Dream BIG!"
You can download her Free Ebook, Dare To Dream BIG!, in her website http://www.merryriana.com/

Now, when you are doing what you are not passionate about, you will feel these Symptoms of Disconnectedness from your Inner Self.
So what are these symptoms that make you feel that you are in the wrong place and feeling that you are heading in the wrong direction? 
Here they are:

Symptoms of Disconnectedness from your Inner Self
- Not knowing what to do - Frozen or Stuck
- Emotional Pain/Turmoil - Depression
- Exhaustion
- Can't sleep at night
- Addictions
- Recurring Problems or Failures

When you feel disconnected, you need to STOP what you are doing so routinely, and start asking yourself questions to discover more about yourself and recap back through the Clues of Purpose and Passion.

CLUES OF PURPOSE AND PASSION
- Your Secret Fantasy of your Wish and Desires in your Life
- Jealous & Envy
- Bodily Symptoms
- Crisis
- Recurring Dreams, Vision
- Talents & Strengths
- Play of a Child

 LEARN TO LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!

Currently, while you are living your Life, Are you feeling LOST, BURN-OUT or FRUSTRATED?
Or are you already Living The Life That You Want? The Extraordinary Life?
There are 4 different types of people.


RIGHT DIRECTION
WRONG DIRECTION
RIGHT STRATEGY
EXTRAORDINARY
BURN-OUT
WRONG STRATEGY
FRUSTRATED
LOST
An example of being LOST - Earning poorly and also find no meaning, passion or purpose in your work.
An example of being BURN-OUT - Earning very well but find no meaning, passion or purpose in your work.
An example of being FRUSTRATED - Doing what you love or like, but not earning the wealth you desire.

An example of being EXTRAORDINARY - Doing what you love or like, and earning the wealth you desire.


A REAL STORY of BURN-OUT to EXTRAORDINARY
There was this person who took a Finance Degree and working in a bank, but finds life meaningless. But after watching a show on cooking, she felt those bodily symptoms of excitement. She finally realized that cooking was what she wanted to do. Eventually she went on to take a degree in cooking, and went from being a great cake baker and cake designer.
She was so good in her artistic cake work that she was invited to be on cooking shows. Although she is not earning the kind of money that she had previously, she now feels life is meaningful and that she is living the kind of life that she loves and enjoys doing.

Merry Riana: "I am where I am right now, is because I Dare To Dream BIG!"
"Dare To Dream BIG!"
"I live my everything." (Meaning that you don't need to think about choosing between Career or Family. You can have BOTH, when you do your good planning and organising of certain activities.)

I will be LIVING MY EVERYTHING! Will You?

'I AM WOMAN' Workshop by Merry Riana

Hi Everyone,
I attend Merry Riana 'I AM WOMAN' Workshop today at AKLTG Training Centre at Keppel Towers.
It started at 10am and ended at 5pm. It is a Women-only workshop where there were about more than a hundred people there.
Merry Riana is a Millionaire Entrepreneur, Best-Selling Author and Motivational Speaker.

It is a great workshop, that has thought me about Image Mastery and Personal Mastery.
In the first half of the talk, Merry spoke about the Image Destroyers for women, then we learnt about Power Dressing.

POWER DRESSING
Hair: Short or neatly tied up; well-styled
Face: Clean and well-maintained skin; appropriate make-up
Clothes: Suit (pant/skirt), jacket, dress
Accessories: Classic and elegant styles
Shoes: Court shoes or pumps; classic style
Grooming: Clean nails; fresh and pleasant smell

FACE ANALYSIS
There are 8 types of face shapes.
Oval-shape faces rule all, those are the most optimal faces that fits all kinds of hairstyles, whether is it straight or long or curly.
Whatever the shape, the basic rule is that you need to do up yourself to make sure that you have an Oval-shape face.
- Basically if you have an Inverted-Triangle Face, then it would be better for you to keep some Curly Hair about shoulder length, so that you cover up your pointed face, to make it look fuller.

After that we went into Colour Analysis of clothes, of what you should or should not wear at certain functions.
Sorry too much details, won't be typing it all out here.

Next we went into Body Analysis. Basically, the optimal body is an Hourglass shape body, meaning the width of your shoulder is the same as your hips.
So if your shoulder and hips are not of equal width, you will either wear clothes that make your shoulders broader, like wearing puffy clothes or shoulder pads, or if you want to make your hips broader, you can wear flair skirt. To make yourself look best, wear clothes to make your body look as hourglass as possible.

Then after that she asked us to discuss with at least 2 persons, "What makes you feel so proud to be a woman?"
Then you get all sorts of answers during the sharing.

Merry Riana then spoke of the 3 Challenges Women Face.

3 CHALLENGES WOMEN FACE
1) Success ("I'm not successful enough.")
2) Balance ("It's hard to have a complete/balance life.")
3) Time for Self ("I feel lost, it has been a long time since I have time for myself.")

Then we were asked to vote on the 1 of the challenges that you feel is biggest to you in your life.
Majority answered SUCCESS, was the biggest challenge to them.

She spoke of the 2 SECRET FORMULAS to SUCCESS:
#1 - Finding the RIGHT DIRECTION
#2 - Finding the RIGHT STRATEGIES

So what do you mean by RIGHT DIRECTION?
Merry Riana (MR): Why do go to work? Why do you want to look good? For what?
People always ask,"How can I be successful?"
But do you know what you want in the first place, what is your passion or purpose in life?

MR gave an analogy to represent direction.
Imagine that you are in City Hall MRT, you ask the MRT staff,"which train should I take?" 
What do you think the staff will say?
"WHERE DO YOU WANT TO GO?"

Most people don't know their direction and don't know what they want. 
So what do most people do?
They tend to take the first train that arrives, that eventually leads them to nowhere! Because they don't even know where they want to go in the first place!

Merry Riana shared about her 1 Big Secret to her Success:
"Because I Dare to Dream BIG!"
You can download her Free Ebook, Dare To Dream BIG!, in her website http://www.merryriana.com/

MR said that she made a resolution at 20 years old, "I will achieve my financial freedom by 30 years old."
Did she have any idea or strategy on how she was going to make it? NO!
But she was committed to make it happen for her.

Exercise: Can you tell me what things do you need to have to live and Extraordinary life?
Audience: Time, Money, Wealth, Peace, Career, Family, Passion in what you do, Guilt-free shopping, freedom, friendship, share & give back, Luck, satisfaction, sex.

Next Exercise: Is there any woman out there who you think are living an Extraordinary life?
Audience: Oprah Winfrey, Ho Ching, Claire Chiang, Elim Chew, Olivia Lum, Nanz Chong, Victoria Beckham
MR: "These are the people in your own opinion that you believe lived an extraordinary life."
"Mother Theresa is living an Extraordinary life, but have no money."

It is not what you have that make you happy. It is WHO YOU ARE that makes you Special!

Identify who you are,  who am I?
What am I passionate in?

What is it that you are wanting all your life?